Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life

Everyone knows that "pro-choice" is doublespeak for "pro-abortion" and that "pro-life" is doublespeak for "anti-abortion," but I find the phrasing itself interesting. Is it not the case, assuming an issue has two sides, that every pro has a con? If you are pro- one thing, then you must be anti- its opposite. So if pro-choice and pro-life are the opposing sides on the abortion issue, then pro-choice must be anti-life, and pro-life must be anti-choice. Is it life in general that those who support abortion on demand oppose? I don't think so. Apparently, it is only the lives of unborn and unwanted babies that those of the pro-choice group are against. Is it choice in general that those who oppose abortion on demand are against? I don't think so. Apparently, it is only a woman's choice to kill an unborn and unwanted baby that the pro-life group opposes. It is certainly not a man's choice - in most states a man's wife can abort her baby and doesn't even have to notify her husband. (So much for "reproductive rights.") Are the two views mutually exclusive? I don't think it is possible to be pro-choice and pro-life at the same time, though many men dodge the question entirely with a logic something like, "I can't get pregnant so who am I to judge?" Many people, perhaps even a majority, would say that abortion isn't so bad if it's in the first few months, but an atrocity if done in the final months of pregnancy. Is this attitude both pro-choice and pro-life?